zowie.

[electricland]

When I go through my Friends list in the evening I realize two things:

1. My Friends list is freaking HUGE.
2. I was clearly spending way too much time on LJ at work.

A little pruning may be in order. Not today though.

In actual news:

1. OMGSQUEEEE!!!11one!! The duct guys came today! (This almost merited an entry at work when I heard from Jen, but I was strong.) They're going to be bloody expensive but I don't care.

2. Gods, benevolent spirits, saints and little fishes help me, I finally signed up for Lavalife yesterday. (Don't laugh, it took me a month and a half to work up to it.) Initially I was worried because (a) I know people who've had no response at all on it, and that's a bit of an ego-crusher, (b) I know people who've had nothing but responses from losers, and that's amusing but unproductive, (c) gack! I didn't mean it! I take it all back! I'm actually very happy in my single bliss! I'll get a dog! that is to say, I'm kind of a chickenshit, my dating experience thus far having been kind of so-so. I was really bad at it, actually.

Now (a) no longer applies, as I have some smiles, but that freaks me out too... *hyperventilates*

Those of you who've done Lavalife or other online dating: any advice? Like, if I instantly weed out the ones with more than one typo, does that make me a bad person?

Comments

[archaica.livejournal.com]

Truly, both of your initial statements are true. I have 50+ people on my flist. And work is more like an interruption from LJ. It's a problem.

[electricland.livejournal.com]

This is why I'm thinking I have to go cold turkey on the LJ-at-work. Too seductive. It's gonna change my reading habits though...

[kendokamel.livejournal.com]

And work is more like an interruption from LJ

Hahahaha- er... yeah, I know what you mean...

[thassalia.livejournal.com]

Go you with the online dating! I had some modest success with it and will probably try it again soon. And yeah, I pretty much follow the same rules as regular dating - spelling, grammar, phrasing and snark are all important things to look at and depending on the site, it's fairly easy to get a sense of someone from their profile. Just make sure you get to talk on the phone several times before you meet.

[electricland.livejournal.com]

Phone, hm? Check. Thank you for the moral support! I do so little regular dating that I don't really have much of a baseline. (Yes, I am lame. Watch this space for a plea for enlightenment any day now: "So there's this strange behaviour called 'dating'? What exactly do you do? How long does it take? Is there a list of rules somewhere I could look up? You mean you're NOT supposed to scream 'Aieee! Someone of the opposite sex is interested in me!' and run away?")

[thassalia.livejournal.com]

Believe me, I can relate to each and every one of those reactions:) You'll be fine!

[raithen.livejournal.com]

well, you saw how well I did with lavalife. *EEK*

also - dating is Wrong. on So. Many. Levels. I have decided. *sigh* Me=single spinster with lots of horses.

[caellum.livejournal.com]

go read my post from last wednesday or thursday. there are some fcking crazy people out there, but be brave, go forth and rally! There are some cool people out there too.

-caellum

[electricland.livejournal.com]

I will do that. Thanks!

It's silly to be this nervous. I know lots of sane, lovely people who've online-dated, some of them even successfully. *breathes*

[talisker.livejournal.com]

I was on LL for more than a year (and actually, my profile is still up I think). Anyway, I went on half a dozen dates in that time. Two resulted in good friendhips, most of them never led anywhere. What I recommend is that you get credits and not be afraid to send smiles. Don't send huge-ass messages right off the bat. Send a smile. If it's reciprocated, send a short message to say hi. Chat a bit before meeting people (and you know all about meeting people in nice, public places :P). You might want to get a throw-away email to use because the email/IM client used to suck at the time. That's about it. Oh, and no, pruning on typos doesn't make you a bad person. A lot of those profiles are just... bad :)

[electricland.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the advice! This is very helpful!

[talisker.livejournal.com]

hope it works out for you. Like I said, even though it didn't work out for me (I met Katy because of my cat), I still made some good friends and had fun doing it :)

[rolypolypony.livejournal.com]

Good luck w/ lavalife! Good for you!

[electricland.livejournal.com]

Thanks! *still scared*

[jenlev.livejournal.com]

i don't post or comment from work. although i can check my emial on my server's web site during lunch and breaks. ahh, the slippery slope of lj. ;)

as for dating....gods. i was/am/is so awful at that. so i don't have much advice as i've pretty much given up. not that there's anything wrong with that. *g*

[electricland.livejournal.com]

not at all!

note that I am replying to comments from work. But it's lunchtime and I am staying OFF my friends page.

[jenlev.livejournal.com]

hee!

and yup, staying off the friend's page might be the key...for me, that way lies hysterical laughter that will scare my co-workers. *veg*

[mr-weasel.livejournal.com]

Good luck with the LavaLife. It's damned hard to meet people in this city and LL is a good tool to mitigate that.

Like, if I instantly weed out the ones with more than one typo, does that make me a bad person?

*runs spell-check and proofreads comment*

:)

[electricland.livejournal.com]

:P

Thanks! Will keep you all posted. I figure I have nowhere to go but up, after all...